interpersonal communication

Interpersonal communication is one of the most commonly used forms of communication. Interpersonal communication involves the face-to-face communication between two or more people. Interpersonal communication is direct, personal, immediate, spontaneous, and informal. When it comes to interpersonal communication this way of communicating is usually done between friends or family members and romantic partners. However interpersonal communication can be used in other ways and with other people as well. Theories of interpersonal communication include dialectics, face needs (positive, and negative), Knapp’s development theory, and filtering. Interpersonal is verbal and non-verbal communication, and is almost impossible to avoid when communication with other people.  With the theory of dialect there are three parts that go along with this. Expressive-protective dialect, which is choosing whether or not to express personal feelings and thoughts with another person. Autonomy-togetherness, which is when two people decided how much togetherness and closeness they should have with one another. Lastly novelty-predictability, this is when I couple falls into a routine of pattern from spending a lot of time with each other. An example of this is from the movie Sex and the City 2.  Carrie and Big have been married for sometime now and decided to take one day away from each other to have their alone time, so Carrie came to the conclusion to keep her apart that she had when she was single to get away for that time they need apart. This would go along with Autonomy-togetherness dialect.

I could not find the part in the movie I was speaking about I could only get the trailer which did not fully show and explain exactly what i was talking about. There is only i small part where Carrie says something about her and big needing time apart. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X5-aOpznm44

Does language shape thought's?

The English language is one of the most complicated languages to learn and understand. With so many words meaning and sounding like other words it is hard for people from other places to easily understand the English language. I do not fully agree with the Whorf’s theory that language shapes the human thought process.  I do not know if it is so much of the language that shapes our thoughts then the words that are being said. If someone says a particular color our minds alter to think of that color, so it’s more of the word rather than the language. I believe that when most people are speaking and telling a story that our brains automatically picture what is being said in our heads. An example of how language shapes thoughts could be ways girls say things about other girls. For example if someone said “that girls hair looks like hay” we would know that clearly that girls hair is dry and looks like hay, this having language shape our thoughts. So using words that may not necessarily go with the flow of the sentence may give us the perfect visual as to what the person is speaking about. Language is interpreted in a million different ways worldwide. Verbal, non verbal, thought process, these are all things that go along with communication. It is all just a matter of how people interpret different things. Language is a huge part of any culture. If language did not exist the world would be a completely different place.

Listening process

We all now know that there are five steps to the listening process. Pay attention, interpretation, evaluation, responding, and storage and retrieval. By following these steps a person can somewhat help avoid having a conflict with a friend or family member. My main problem is attention, if the person that is trying to tell me something does not capture my individualized attention, there is no hope for me following the rest of the steps that help us listen. My friends and I do not have a lot of issues among all of us because we generally agree with each other and stay out f other people’s drama. However there was a time when not only listening was not used but there was also a lack of communication between the three of us. In high school I was very close with these two girls Meredith and Deanna. Well one day Meredith and I were in a little disagreement that at this point I do not even remember what it was about. So I was talking to Deanna about what was going and simply said to her I am not too worried about it we will both get over it. Deanna not fully understanding mine and Meredith’s relationship went and told Meredith just what I had said exacerbating the situation. By what I said I meant that mine and Meredith’s friendships is stronger than any silly argument and we both love each other so much that nothing could keep us apart. I saw no harm in saying what I had said to Deanna at the time, but now knowing the listening process defiantly would have made sure Deanna had known the steps to. Deanna did get the first step down, pay attention. When it came to interpreting however this was a little shaky. Deanna clearly did not fully interpret what I had said and restated it to Meredith and over time this small lack of listening actually fully ruined all three of our friendships. If I could change something I do not think that I would have said anything at all. Or if I did I would have made sure that she fully understood before our conversation was over. Without interpretation that means the response, storage, and retrieval or now all incorrect